A WRITEUP ON HEARTBREAKS💔

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So basically a heartbreak is the unpleasant feeling you get after a relationship or when trust is broken.So there are 5 stages of a breakup which was presented by psychologists 

  1. Denial 
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining 
  4. Acceptance.                                                     


I normally ask most of the people that went through this feeling about their views on  why their heart got broken and how  they are trying to get over it or how they got over it. I got very interesting answer on  that which most of it were based on trust,cheating, and duration. 


So i also went through this kind of feeling when i was in secondary school,after a 3 years relationship because my boyfriend apparently asked my friends sister out or was about to ( i cant recall all😹) but yeah i chatted him immediately and broke-up with him. So i went through the “breakup feeling” but i got out of it very fast, i didn’t go through all this breakup stages.


How i got over mine?


The First thing i did was to change his name from loml❤️ to his full name😂,then the next thing i did was to delete all our chats and pictures (which i think is very important because it helps you forget).


The second thing i did is talking to myself inside my head (werid i know but it actually helped🤷🏿‍♀️) and you dont want to know what i said cause i said alooot of bad stuffs about the guy😂 ( if your reading this no offense) the most important thing is that i convinced myself that i was worth more and that he won’t ever have someone like me (egocentric 👸🏻) 


So i started getting over him and all and the good part is that we were on a holiday and he stays far away, so things were easier for me. When we got back to school i decide to go with the i “I DONT FUcKING CARE” attitude but truth to be told i did. Later on things got good between us and we became friends again😂 and the awesome part was he was dating someone and later on i started dating another person so things became normal


I feel like me been egocentric really helped me, because it made me not questioned myself or compare myself with anyone. So for anyone that wants to get over a relationship ~be the bitch😌


For Trust heartbreak 


Well for me thats the worst because psychologically expectation causes pain. So learn to not expect anything from anyone. Its a long journey not everyone is ment to flow with you to the end some might fall along the way. Having a very small circle is theeee best ( With the right people) because there’s less noise and more joy.


The same routing above can also help but in this case I wouldn’t approve been egocentric but to learn from your mistakes and also finding someone to talk to, if not write it on a piece of paper and throw away ( which psychologist would advice) and then focus more on improving yourself. Go out and spoil yourself, am sure you’ll meet you people along the way.



Sooo i hope you enjoyed this writeup, if you have any comments or you’ll like to share how you got over ur relationships or trust issues with me👍 feel free and subscribe 💕 Bye❤️



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